A Survivor’s Guide to Staying Safe on Facebook

Deliberate Donkey

Just go offline is a ridiculous thing to tell a survivor of domestic violence. Isolation is a tactic of abusers, and suggesting that a victim or survivor continue that, or further that, is condoning a strategy abusers use to maintain their control over their target. It’s been my experience that going online is empowering and supportive, and an important part of the recovery and reconnection process.

But it’s dangerous. Abusers are fucking assholes. Mine found me while I was still completely anonymous, using a pseudonym not even remotely connected with my identity or location, which prompted me to change my author identity from Tending Weeds to Melanie. I am Melanie. And fuck him for making me think I needed to be anyone else.

Abusers will lie, cheat, steal, manipulate, and coerce in order to get what they want, and there is nothing, nothing, that will stop them from…

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About FACE MY ABUSE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE COMMUNITY AWARENESS GROUP

FACE MY ABUSE "FMA" founded in 2006 by Jacqueline Rowe - Mother, Author, Mentor and Philanthropist, is established to address domestic violence against women and girls by increasing awareness, promoting effective policies and implementing potent strategies for prevention and intervention. "FMA's" mission is to advance the health, education and security of women and girls the world over with a focus on building healthy sustainable relationships defying domestic violence and its impact on not only the victim but by extension the family as a whole transcending the community. As a platform of refuge and support, "FMA" outreach program creates safe spaces for survivors and their families to stand in solidarity and heal through shared experience releasing all pains, self doubt and baggages internalized as a result of being abused. Ms. Rowe, guided by her purpose and experience, recognizes the importance of encouraging communities to lend their voices to persons who have not yet found theirs. She believes that communities have a responsibility to be their neighbor's keeper and upon identification of abuse, it is imperative to become a fort in the transformation from victim to survivor averting burdens such as guilt and shame. Via her life coaching workshops, Jacqueline shares with victims, the tools necessary to develop the confidence needed in acknowledging their worth, building self confidence and exhibiting the life intended. To promote reach, she incorporates third party resources geared towards demonstrating alternatives and providing positive influences. Currently, "FMA" is actively seeking opportunities to align with community leaders who are advocates of domestic violence as well as entities whose corporate responsibility reflects "FMA's" mission. Jacqueline states that "I may not be where I should be but I'm where I need to be - still a student of life".

Posted on August 28, 2013, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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