I Saw a Man Beat a Woman. And I Did Nothing.

Sarafina Bianco

Part 1:

It’s known as Bystander effect. My therapist told me at our first meeting after my honeymoon. I sat in her office, staring at and counting all of my newly acquired freckles.  Eye contact impossible.

“You shouldn’t have had to see that, especially on your honeymoon, Fina,” she said. “It’s so unfair.”

And she was right.

“It shouldn’t have happened,” I replied.

And I was right, too.


It was the third day of our week in Oahu. JF isn’t a certified diver but I am, and I wanted to spend some time underwater on our trip. When I found an introductory dive, for people without certification, I immediately bought two seats on the boat. Our training would begin at 2:30 and our dive would follow. We’d be done in time to find a nice place for dinner.

We spent the morning at Pearl Harbor, touring the memorials…

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FACE MY ABUSE "FMA" founded in 2006 by Jacqueline Rowe - Mother, Author, Mentor and Philanthropist, is established to address domestic violence against women and girls by increasing awareness, promoting effective policies and implementing potent strategies for prevention and intervention. "FMA's" mission is to advance the health, education and security of women and girls the world over with a focus on building healthy sustainable relationships defying domestic violence and its impact on not only the victim but by extension the family as a whole transcending the community. As a platform of refuge and support, "FMA" outreach program creates safe spaces for survivors and their families to stand in solidarity and heal through shared experience releasing all pains, self doubt and baggages internalized as a result of being abused. Ms. Rowe, guided by her purpose and experience, recognizes the importance of encouraging communities to lend their voices to persons who have not yet found theirs. She believes that communities have a responsibility to be their neighbor's keeper and upon identification of abuse, it is imperative to become a fort in the transformation from victim to survivor averting burdens such as guilt and shame. Via her life coaching workshops, Jacqueline shares with victims, the tools necessary to develop the confidence needed in acknowledging their worth, building self confidence and exhibiting the life intended. To promote reach, she incorporates third party resources geared towards demonstrating alternatives and providing positive influences. Currently, "FMA" is actively seeking opportunities to align with community leaders who are advocates of domestic violence as well as entities whose corporate responsibility reflects "FMA's" mission. Jacqueline states that "I may not be where I should be but I'm where I need to be - still a student of life".

Posted on July 7, 2014, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. Thank you for sharing. ❤

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